How To Forgive The Unforgivable
Your heart knows how to forgive the 'unforgivable'. But forgiveness can be your guiding light OR work against you, depending on your understanding of it.
Your heart knows how to forgive the ‘unforgivable’. Forgiveness is going to be a reoccurring theme on this blog. I have gone through some very interesting healing over the last few years, overcoming the hurt from incest, sexual abuse, physical abuse, heart-break, and abandonment. You can heal absolutely anything.
But I want to point out: Forgiveness can be your guiding light or work against you, depending on your understanding of it.
Yes, forgiveness is a consequence of healing. It is a step that you naturally take when you are truly ready. Please, never try to force yourself to forgive anyone. Focus on loving yourself into healing. Forgiveness can be something to aspire to and work towards; to hope for and to sense far off in the distance. Just remember, that healing happens as you learn to love yourself so much that you choose to forgive because it is the only way to be truly free. In other words, forgiveness is an act of self-love and a step towards genuine Universal Unconditional Love.
This sounds terribly unfair, doesn’t it? Someone has broken your heart, hurt you, abused you or attacked you, and now this massive challenge has landed on your lap: the challenge to move beyond judgement.
It is true, that the people who hurt us most in life are the ones who teach us forgiveness, true healing, and perhaps even how to love unconditionally. You can learn to move beyond judgement and keep our heart open. Wider still. Imagine looking at your perpetrator with peace inside of you and a loving intent for them in your heart. Liberation, my dear. In this design called life what we do onto others, we do onto ourselves. Because on a deeper level, we are all one.
Many people have a negative idea of forgiveness as a concept. We are used to faking forgiveness to maintain the cultural and social status quo. As we grow up, we get the sense that forgiveness is something you are expected to grant someone who apologises to you. So, what happens when someone does something horrendous to you and does not apologise? It is a terrible feeling. Like being suspended mid-air in Nowhereland.
How are you supposed to forgive? And what happens when you are so hurt, angry, crushed, abused, violated, that you feel like you are incapable of forgiving? Not being able to forgive might even make you feel ashamed of yourself… on top of everything else you now have to feel ashamed of.
No, you don’t need an apology to forgive. Forgiveness comes from deep within your heart, regardless of external circumstances. Like a bird flying out of a cage. Because that is what birds do – they fly! And people, we love. And love and judgement cancel each other out. And without judgement, there is nothing to hold anyone to anymore. Thus, forgiveness emerges like a blossoming flower.
When something terrible has happened to you, forgiveness should not be on your mind. Change the focus back to yourself. Make yourself feel good again. Find a way to care for and love yourself deeper than ever before. When you have healed, you will forgive. Just remember that you are not what you have done or what has been done to you. You are a Divine Spirit having a physical experience, and to love as freely as you breathe the air is your birthright. So, heal your heart and honour that magnificent sacred flame in your heart. You don’t need anyone’s permission except your own. You never do.
Abraham Hicks – This Is How You Allow Yourself Self-Love!
Wise words from evolved beings who offer a higher, clearer perspective on life